What is wrong with people!!!!!! In general people are just awful creatures, but this isn’t news. That’s why I don’t have any friends. You can’t trust anyone. Why do people need so much damn negative drama? I don’t think that I am cynical I think I’m realistic. Hubby and I try to always do right by people and always without fail we end up getting kicked in the teeth for it. It’s true I suppose that nice guys finish last. For some fucked up reason I was born with a moral code that doesn’t allow me to just walk around being a lying prick which always turns out bad for me. Sometimes I wish I had it in me to just be a total bitch with out any concern for the feelings of others, it seems to pay off more in this world. O.K. so maybe I am being a little cynical tonight and rambling on top of that but I am so pissed and disappointed I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs and the inflicting pain on a few people.

My husband is a musician and I’m a writer. We along with a friend of ours started a band. We ended up finding a drummer who was in his early teens but pretty good . We had known him from around and he seemed pretty dedicated to the idea. Then a few months later we had a friend join the band as lead vocalist. He also younger then us but we had known him for a couple of years and he was friends with my husband. See my hubby is a little more trusting then me. He likes to hope for the best in people. Anyway before these 2 guys joined they agreed to the way things where going to happen. They where told that I would be managing the band and all decisions and plans for the band needed to go through me. We were serious about the band going some where and at the same time hubby and the other founder of the band wanted to be free to worry about nothing but the music and leave the booking, promotion, finances, etc up to me. We 3 that started the band wrote all of the songs. We had the only income so we where the only ones investing any money into the band. I worked day and night promoting the band and just doing what ever I could to get them word out. Everything was going fine at first. There where a few minor arguments , mainly because of the drummer and his lack of maturity but everyone got over it pretty fast. In the beginning the lead vocalist didn’t have a girl friend but soon he got back together with his ex and the next thing you know his asshole level starts to rise. So any way my hubby and I spent several hundreds on the first show. It was a party and by this time because of lots of hard work the band already had a huge local following. We decided to charge just a few $ at the door to make back some of the money that we had spent on the show/party and that the co-founder/bassist had spent on equipment for the everyone in the band. Wouldn’t you know it after the show the drummer and vocalist wanted to know what money they were getting form the show. What!!!????!!! We already told them that the only money that any one was going to get was to help pay them back for what they put into the band. The band wasn’t making a profit, it wasn’t even paying for it’s self. Us 3 that had begun the band were loosing hundreds and these guys who hadn’t put a penny in had the balls to ask for money! So any way this was our first real glimpse at what these guys where all about. As time went on the singer and his girl friend started wanting to stick there noses into how the band was run. The 3 founders of the band where shelling out money left and right for flyers, studio time, gas, food and drinks, websites, etc. The drummer and singer still hadn’t invested a penny, but still seemed to have a problem with the fact that they were not getting any money from the very little amount of money that the band was making. Anyway all of this bullshit came to a head a few weeks ago. We had a couple show coming up that I had worked very hard to book. These where important. This one show had been scheduled on a day that the lead vocalist girl friend had plans. The plans weren’t made until after the show had already been booked . She was already pissed about the situation but tried to play it off before all this happened. Anyway a few days before the show I spoke to the venue owner and he said that there was a big school event going on that same day so he was worried that our band which was playing first wouldn’t have much more an audience but that there where already ticket sales made and that people were really looking forward to the show and especially seeing the head lining band. The head lining band was pretty popular locally and had put their time in and where also friends of our band and was doing the show as a favor to us. Anyway hubby and I decided to call up the other band members and let them know the situation so they wouldn’t be let down if the crowd wasn’t as large as we hoped. No sooner did we get off the phone with the singer then his girl was on the phone trying to get the headlining band to let us play last in the premier spot. What!!!?????!!! She told them that because her and her boyfriend had plans that we the band wanted to play last because these plans where so important. O.K. so lets look at the problem with this. They wanted the premier spot which isn’t the way that the venue wanted and venue owner is the boss and been promoting and selling tickets based on the big name band being in this time slot. Also this would have pushed the band playing after us into a spot that we weren’t to happy with playing in ourselves. Of course they didn’t tell the other bands any of this. So I called the girl friend up and told her that we needed to stick with the original line up, because it wasn’t cool to play the other bands that way and because that’s the way the venue owner wanted . Then I asked her to please (for the 100^th time) not to make plans for the band or to change things with the bookings with checking with me first so that everyone had all of the info and the situation didn’t turn out to be a disaster or a mark against us because of bad communication and to many cooks in the kitchen. As nice as that seems I said it even nicer. If you know me you would know that I am a very diplomatic person and don’t getting snotty with anyone unless I have no other choice. Anyway , I think everything’s cleared up. So will call them back a little while later to make sure that they have straitened everything out with the bands and things where put back the way they where to begin with. SHE answers the phone and starts going off about me being a bitch and this and that cussing and throwing a fit. A little info that I had left out is that this all was going down the day before the anniversary of my moms murder so my hubby and I where already in a stressed out , emotional state with everything and didn’t need any childish bullshit to add to it. So that was that hubby had had it with the singer and his girls bullshit. It was becoming to much . The band wasn’t fu7n anymore there was always some stupid drama because of the singer and/ or drummer. We had tried talking to the singer in the past but he thought he was right and that he knew everything so he didn’t have to change and every suggestion went in one ear and out the other. Hubby went to the other band members and they all voted to kick the singer out of the band. The next day hubby went to tell the singer. He didn’t want the other guys to have to deal with the drama so he went by himself. From then on things just got worse. There friends and them stared lying out there teeth about the whole situation . Twisting everything to their advantage and so on you know how it goes. We tried to take the high road and never said one negative thing about any of them to anyone which meant we couldn’t tell anyone the truth about the situation, including the bands and venue owner that we where trying to keep from being screwed. Again in the end us trying to do the right thing ends up with us getting screwed. A few days later the drummer quit the band which to tell the truth was a relief and a lot of stress off of our shoulders. Luckily things are staring to die down about the whole situation but there is one person. This little male bitch won’t let it die. He keeps talking shit about things he doesn’t know. That situation is a story all in it’s own. He was one of the roadies for the band and he’s believed all the bullshit that people told him even hubby and I are the only ones that stood up for him when everyone else wanted to get rid of his ass. Any way he was already pissed at us because we being good friends expressed to him the fact he should change who he was for his girl friend and start doing drugs and drinking just because she thought it was cool. We also let him know we didn’t care for the fact that his girlfriends friends where talking shit about the band and his friends or the fact that his rich little girl liked to through her money in peoples face while mooching off of everyone in the band. This guy is scared of his own shadow and hasn’t said shit to our faces but is talking shit non stop behind our backs. I just heard about more shit that he was talking tonight and hubbies about to hurt the boy. At this point we are more pissed off at this little turd then the people that the situation started with. I have tried to just let it go but I am inches away from beating some one. One more push and I’m going to go postal on him. You know at times like this it makes it very hard to keep to karmic laws in mind and to avoid doing magic for revenge, because honestly I would love to rain a little payback on some heads. Anyway there is a lot more to this story but I think I have ranted enough about this subject for the time being. So the moral of the story it doesn’t pay to be nice and trust no one. Oh and a good helping of who needs enemies with friends like these.